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The Danger of Toxic Positivity

I’m a big fan of the quote “positive vibes only“. As a matter of fact, a t-shirt from my first MS merch collection says that. Positivity is a good thing. I believe in the aura of staying positive and manifesting good things into your life. However, as with everything, no one can be positive all the time. Positivity can be toxic, and that’s what I’m addressing in this post.

What is Toxic Positivity?

Toxic positivity or positive toxicity is a dysfunctional approach to emotional management that happens when people do not fully acknowledge negative emotions, particularly anger and sadness. It is a pressure to remain cheerful no matter how terrible the situation is. Toxic positivity happens when people believe that negative thoughts are not permitted. In essence, it’s forced positivity.

Examples of Toxic Positivity

TOXIC POSITIVITYNORMAL REACTION
You don’t cry or let yourself grieve. You act like nothing happened.You cry, wail and be aware of the reality of what has happened.
It is well.It will be well.
Failure is not permitted.Failure is normal and a part of growth.
Don’t think about it. Move on.I’m here for you when you’re ready to talk about it.
There are worse things. It’s not that bad.It’s okay to feel bad.
You must remain positive.It’s hard to remain positive in a situation like this.


A person that practices toxic positivity suppresses their true emotions. They refuse to acknowledge that sadness is normal. They believe in acting like everything is okay all the time and ignore the truth. They don’t let themselves feel pain, hurt, anger and disappointment. This is where the danger lies.

Staying positive all the time and ignoring your true feelings are detrimental to your health. In denying your truth, you stop being true to yourself. As a result, you don’t let yourself heal, grow and learn. Below are some of the dangers of toxic positivity:

Responding to Toxic Positivity

The first step to recognizing toxic positivity is self-awareness. Be aware of your emotions and how you deal with them. Also, be mindful of how you respond to other people’s emotions. Acknowledge that bad things happen, and we interpret situations differently. Once you are in tune with your emotions and feelings, try these other suggestions below.

I hope this post helped. Please share the ways you respond to toxic positivity in the comments.

Mariam Shittu

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