Why do we say things we don’t mean?

I find myself saying things I don’t mean often not because I wish to lie but more because I have automatic replies I’ve constructed in my head.

I say no worries when I’m carrying worry the weight of an elephant on my mind.

I say no problem when I’ve thought of countless ways why there could be a problem.

I say that’s okay when it’s really not okay but most importantly, I say I’m fine whenever anyone asks me how I’m doing even when I feel like I’m dying inside.

So this one time, I’ll say;

Yes, I mind.
No, I don’t agree.
No, that’s not okay.
No, I’m not fine

Mariam Shittu