Have you ever asked yourself why you choose to be somebody else?
Being someone else is boring, tasking, tiring and mind consuming. I have been there and done that and I know now it is no place I ever want to be again. When you have to wake up everyday pretending to be able to talk a certain way, act a particular way, move a certain way, or even to be comfortable in a certain place, it gets draining eventually and you forget who you really are.
Sometimes we pretend to be someone else not to appear weak or incapable to fit in a group. Other times, we try to match up to who we were replaced with losing our true selves in the process. In essence, we pretend because we believe it is necessary to be accepted. The only people who are allowed to pretend to be other people are actors because that is their profession.
Worrying about what other people think of you is normal. Don’t pretend, I know you have worried about other people’s opinions of you and it gave you sleepless nights or panic attacks. Caring deeply about what others feel is important because that is what compassion is all about but do not care about what others think to the extent that it is destructive.
There will always be someone who can’t see your worth. Don’t let it be you.
So how do you be yourself?
To be yourself, you have to love yourself. So do you love yourself? If your answer is no, then working on liking yourself is the first step to being yourself. Eat like you love yourself, move like you love yourself, speak like you love yourself, act like you love yourself, love others like you love yourself. If you do not love yourself, you cannot be yourself. When you love yourself, it boots your self esteem and you know your worth.
To be yourself, let go of who you think you need to be and just be who you are. Instead of trying to be someone else, let people see the imperfect you. When you love yourself, you choose yourself first over who you think you should be.
To be yourself, you have to believe in yourself. Believe you are special, believe you are beautiful, believe you are good enough, believe you are capable because nothing will work if you don’t believe in it. A notable difference between successful people and unsuccessful people isn’t intelligence or opportunity or resources. It’s the belief that they can make their goals happen.
Be yourself because it is easier than being somebody else.
Be yourself because the world needs who you were made to be.
Be yourself because it is somethng you can do better than anyone else.
Be yourself because it is the only way to find out who loves you for you.
Be yourself because you are amazing just the way you are.