Comparison is a natural human tendency, but it can also be a dangerous trap we can fall into without even realizing it. When we constantly compare ourselves to others, whether in looks, material things, success, or achievements, we set ourselves up for feelings of inadequacy, jealousy, and low self-esteem.

Constantly comparing ourselves to others can be detrimental to our mental health and overall well-being, and social media, with its highlight reels and curated versions of people’s lives, has only exacerbated this issue. We often forget that what we see online is not the full picture and everyone has struggles and imperfections.

Below are some of the dangers of comparison explained in detail.

LOW SELF-ESTEEM

One of the dangers of comparison is that it can lead to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem. When we constantly measure ourselves against others, we often come up short in our own eyes. This can create a negative self-image and erode our self-confidence. It’s important to remember that everyone is on their unique journey and that we are all at different stages in our lives. I know this can be hard, but it’s doable.

LACK OF GRATITUDE

Comparing ourselves to others can also lead to a lack of gratitude for what we have. Instead of focusing on what we lack, we should be grateful for the blessings in our lives and work towards our goals and dreams. Most of us are living in our answered prayers, and we should take some time to marinate in them and appreciate our achievements so far.

RESENTMENT & JEALOUSY

Another danger of comparison is that it can lead to resentment and jealousy. When we see someone else succeeding or achieving something we desire, it’s easy to feel envious and bitter. This feeling can poison our relationships and prevent us from genuinely celebrating other people’s successes. It’s important to remember that someone else’s success does not diminish our worth or potential.

DERAILMENT FROM GOALS

Comparison can also distract us from our own goals and priorities. When we are constantly looking at what others have or do, we may lose sight of what truly matters to us. We may end up chasing after things that don’t align with our values or aspirations, simply because we think we should have them based on what others have. I came across a tweet this week that read, “do you want it or do you want others to see that you have it?”, and this made me think long and hard about everything I’ve desired recently. It’s best to stay focused on our own path and what brings us true fulfillment and happiness.

“We won’t be distracted by comparison if we are captivated with purpose.”
– BOB GOFF

Everyone’s journey is unique; comparing yourself to others will only hinder your growth and happiness. Embrace your own path and celebrate your successes, no matter how small they may seem compared to others. Remember that true happiness comes from within, not external validation; you are enough just as you are.

I hope the month of May is good to you.

Mariam Shittu