The holiday season is upon us, and it’s always associated with joy, laughter, and spending quality time with loved ones. However, it can also be a time of profound loneliness and isolation for many. Whether you’re away from family, have recently experienced a loss, or find yourself without a close support system, feeling lonely during the holidays is daunting. Don’t worry, you’re not alone. See below some suggestions to help you navigate this difficult time and find comfort and connection.

1. Acknowledge Your Feelings:

Loneliness can be overwhelming, but it’s important to remember that feeling this way is okay. Be honest with yourself and recognize that loneliness is normal for some, especially during festive times when societal expectations of togetherness are at an all-time high. Permit yourself to experience these emotions without judgment.

2. Reach Out to Acquaintances, Friends & Family:

If you feel lonely or left out, don’t hesitate to contact friends, neighbours, or colleagues. You’ll never know if someone else is craving company and feeling exactly how you feel if you don’t. Also, reaching out shows that you’re interested in connecting, and you can get invited to an event. If you’re far away from your loved ones, you can connect with them virtually; organize virtual game nights or movie nights or just a simple video call. Trust me, it’ll go a long way.

3. Go Out Of The House:

If you want to get out of your funk, don’t stay in the house caged up every day. Take a walk down the street. The Xmas lights you see may do the simple trick of cheering you up. When you eventually get invited out, could you not turn it down? Go! You don’t have to stay if you don’t like it, but you must also make an effort.

4. Embrace New Traditions:

If your usual holiday traditions are no longer feasible or don’t bring you joy, consider creating new ones. Explore different activities that align with your interests and values. These could include taking up a new hobby, learning a new skill, trying out a holiday-themed DIY project, or participating in virtual events and workshops. By doing so, you may discover new sources of happiness and connection.

5. Seek Professional Support:

It’s okay to seek professional support if feelings of loneliness become overwhelming. Therapists, counsellors, or support groups can offer valuable guidance and a safe space to express emotions. They can also provide coping strategies specifically tailored to your situation. Therapists have a way of talking you through your feelings and helping you feel better.

While dealing with loneliness during the holidays is undoubtedly challenging, it’s important to remember that you are not alone in your experience. By acknowledging your feelings, reaching out to others, leaving the house, embracing new traditions, and seeking support when needed, you can find comfort and connection during this time. Remember that the holidays are about more than physical presence; they’re about love, compassion, and the bonds we create with others.

Happy holidays!

Mariam Shittu