If we were having tea, I’d be excited because it’s been twenty-one months since we sat together to have tea. I’d order fresh mint tea with two shots of ginger, lemon juice and honey. I’d sit right beside you, hold you, and stare at you for a long time without saying anything, just letting the things we’re saying to each other consume us in silence.

If we were having tea, I’d tell you everything you’ve missed. First on the list is that the babies have multiplied! They are now four from two. We often wonder how you’d have joggled your grandma duties and share stories all the time of how you’d have spoilt every one of them rotten. Your last baby has a baby? Can you believe that? Though she misses you, she’s pulling through with faith and an extensive support system in her corner.

If we were having tea, I’d tell you that the past twenty-one months have been tough. I’m sure you know Daddy left us too last year. We’re doing as best as possible, considering everything we’ve had to adjust to. Luke has been playing the Mummy and Daddy role when required, and I can tell that it’s a heavy load on him even though he has all our support. Daddy’s death has even brought us closer than we were before. I don’t think I’ll be getting by if I didn’t have all of them on this journey with me. Thank you for raising us as buddies like you did. We truly appreciate it.

If we were having tea, I’d tell you about everything I checked off my 2023 list and how far I’ve gone for 2024. Though some major things are still pending, a good number of things have been sorted, and I believe I’m making good progress, considering it’s almost half a year. Life has a way of showing you who’s in charge, and I’m learning to accept that. I know you know how hard I’m trying, so I won’t dwell on that. I’m not going to give up and will keep striving for everything I want while enjoying the wins, like you taught me to.

If we were having tea, I’d tell you about how crazy inflation is biting everyone and how hard the economy has been since we last had tea. We’re thankful we can afford the basic and fancy things we want, albeit one or two complaints. We know this is not the same for most families, and we’re thankful for this. I’m managing my finances and exploring investments and other sources of income to stay comfortable. I know you’re proud of me.

If we’re having tea, I’d tell you not to worry about me. I’d refuse to talk about, you know what no matter how many times you probe for information or updates. You will know when there’s something to tell. Oh and by the way, I am officially a godmother to the cutest baby Ayobami, Damola’s son. I have so many babies that I’ve stolen my heart and pocket money.

If we were having tea, I’d stay with you until the shop was ready to lock up for the day. I’d hug you when the waiter comes by the third time with the bill and make the payment without letting you go. I’d leave hoping we have tea again together very soon.

Your baby,
Mariam