Surviving Long Distance Relationships

Have you ever been in a long-distance relationship(LDR)? If you have been or you are currently in one, I’m sure you will agree with me that it’s not easy. The inability to do simple things like holding your partner’s hand or hugging them can make you feel really lonely.

You are together but are you really together? You try to text as often as possible and talk to each other every day to keep the relationship alive. When you live in different time zones it’s even worse; when they are partying on a Friday while you are at work. Some relationships start as long distance from the very beginning while some become long distance later on in the relationship. I’m not sure if there’s anyone that is easier than the other. The only common thing all long-distance relationships have is the assurance that you will be reunited soon.

”Distance means so little, when someone means so much.”

For some people, LDRs are the worst and they will never get in one because they believe that it will never work. That’s not necessarily true because it depends on the two people who are in the relationship and how much they are willing to work to see it through.

So how does a long-distance relationship survive? To succeed in an LDR, you both need to be intentional about seeing the relationship through above every other thing. Then to keep the love alive, you can try the suggestions below;

Try to Communicate Regularly and Creatively: Communication is important for every relationship and more so for long-distance relationships. Think about your partner like they are living in the same city with you even if they aren’t. Send random messages when you’re thinking of them, it’s cute. Try to include them in everything you do and carry them along in everything that’s happening in your life. Video calls work better because they make you feel closer, so try to do that every day if you can.

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Be Honest: Honesty is necessary for every relationship long distance or not. It’s better to be an open book and speak the truth all the time without holding things in. If you aren’t sure it’s working out or it’s becoming unbearable for you, speak up instead of cheating.

Try To See Often: It’s easier to survive a long-distance relationship when you know when next you are going to see your partner. Make plans to see each other as often as possible. It gives you something to look forward to and it keeps the love alive.

Avoid Dangerous Situations: If you know that keeping someone as a friend will only get you to cheat eventually, stay away from them. Don’t go to the club if you may end up drinking and getting in someone’s bed. Don’t keep your toasters at bay and do not encourage any distractions because they will only lead to bad decisions.

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Make Plans For The Future: There has to be a plan for the future of the relationship. It shouldn’t be a long-distance relationship forever and you both have to be willing to make sacrifices for each other. This may mean that one person has to forget everything they know and move to be with the other person.

Lastly, I wish you all the best🙂

Questions For You
Have you ever been in a long-distance relationship or are you in one currently?
Do you have any other suggestions besides the ones I mentioned?

Thanks for reading.

Mariam Shittu