Surviving Long Distance Relationships

Have you ever been in a long-distance relationship(LDR)? If you have been or you are currently in one, I’m sure you will agree with me that it’s not easy. The inability to do simple things like holding your partner’s hand or hugging them can make you feel really lonely.

You are together but are you really together? You try to text as often as possible and talk to each other every day to keep the relationship alive. When you live in different time zones it’s even worse; when they are partying on a Friday while you are at work. Some relationships start as long distance from the very beginning while some become long distance later on in the relationship. I’m not sure if there’s anyone that is easier than the other. The only common thing all long-distance relationships have is the assurance that you will be reunited soon.

”Distance means so little, when someone means so much.”

For some people, LDRs are the worst and they will never get in one because they believe that it will never work. That’s not necessarily true because it depends on the two people who are in the relationship and how much they are willing to work to see it through.

So how does a long-distance relationship survive? To succeed in an LDR, you both need to be intentional about seeing the relationship through above every other thing. Then to keep the love alive, you can try the suggestions below;

Try to Communicate Regularly and Creatively: Communication is important for every relationship and more so for long-distance relationships. Think about your partner like they are living in the same city with you even if they aren’t. Send random messages when you’re thinking of them, it’s cute. Try to include them in everything you do and carry them along in everything that’s happening in your life. Video calls work better because they make you feel closer, so try to do that every day if you can.


Be Honest: Honesty is necessary for every relationship long distance or not. It’s better to be an open book and speak the truth all the time without holding things in. If you aren’t sure it’s working out or it’s becoming unbearable for you, speak up instead of cheating.

Try To See Often: It’s easier to survive a long-distance relationship when you know when next you are going to see your partner. Make plans to see each other as often as possible. It gives you something to look forward to and it keeps the love alive.

Avoid Dangerous Situations: If you know that keeping someone as a friend will only get you to cheat eventually, stay away from them. Don’t go to the club if you may end up drinking and getting in someone’s bed. Don’t keep your toasters at bay and do not encourage any distractions because they will only lead to bad decisions.


Make Plans For The Future: There has to be a plan for the future of the relationship. It shouldn’t be a long-distance relationship forever and you both have to be willing to make sacrifices for each other. This may mean that one person has to forget everything they know and move to be with the other person.

Lastly, I wish you all the best🙂

Questions For You
Have you ever been in a long-distance relationship or are you in one currently?
Do you have any other suggestions besides the ones I mentioned?

Thanks for reading.

Mariam Shittu

24 thoughts on “Surviving Long Distance Relationships

  1. I really enjoyed reading about this post because my boyfriend and I are currently doing long distance. Although it is only for 3 months, all of your points are soooo true! The two of us really invest into the next time we are going to see each other and all of the fun things we will have planned! Awesome post!

    1. Thank you, I believe no LDR is the same and what works for a particular couple may not work for the other. The most important thing is knowing each other completely, trusting each other and putting in the work to make it work. I’ll check your post out too❤️

  2. This guy and I were dating for almost three years when he decided to go work abroad. The relationship ended almost to years since he left. It truly wasn’t easy and temptation is everywhere. Unfortunately, he fell victim to this temptations so everything was ruined.

    1. I’m so sorry to hear this though I know it’s in your past. Long Distance Relationships require work and not everyone can handle them. Thanks for sharing!!!!

    1. I’m glad you found this post helpful. The first step you should take in the right direction is “knowing” it will work out and working towards just that.

  3. Hey this is a great post. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 18 months now, and in August we are both moving away for work. (He is going to Buenos Aries and I am going to Guadeloupe in the Caribbean). We won’t see each other for at least 8 months. I’m really scared as we have spent 3 months apart before, and towards the end it got harder. The only positive of this is being in the same time zone. I don’t want to lose him and we are both upset about having to leave but hopefully in the long term it works out and this is just something we have to do! I am going to follow your advice from this post xxx

    1. Hi Vic, I don’t think you should worry too much about it not working out. Instead, focus on finding ways to make sure it works out. Being in the same time zone definitely makes things lighter. I’m glad to be of help and I hope everything goes well.
      Love & Light <3

  4. Jordan’s comments: You have to set very clear boundaries so that you don’t get in sticky situations that get you in trouble. Make the other person priority and don’t forget to check in.

  5. I think alternating who visits who also helps to 1) balance things out and 2) makes you get to know the person in their personal space.

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